The Cauldron: A Pagan Forum (Archive Board)
September 26, 2022, 04:39:32 am *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
News: This is our Read Only Archive Board (closed to posting July 2011). Join our new vBulletin board!
 
  Portal   Forum   Help Rules Search Chat (Mux) Articles Login Register   *

Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
September 26, 2022, 04:39:32 am

Login with username, password and session length
Donate!
The Cauldron's server is expensive and requires monthly payments. Please become a Bronze, Silver or Gold Donor if you can. Donations are needed every month. Without member support, we can't afford the server.
TC Staff
Important Information about this Archive Board
This message board is The Cauldron: A Pagan Forum's SMF Archive Board. It is closed to new memberships and to posting, but there are over 250,000 messages here that you can still search and read -- many full of interesting and useful information. (This board was open from February 2007 through June 2011).

Our new vBulletin discussion board is located at http://www.ecauldron.com/forum/ -- if you would like to participate in discussions like those you see here, please visit our new vBulletin message board, register an account and join in our discussions. We hope you will find the information in this message archive useful and will consider joining us on our new board.
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Add bookmark  |  Print  
Author Topic: coming of age ritual/ceremony - looking for ideas and/or advice on  (Read 6499 times)
elahrairah
Apprentice
**
Last Login:November 10, 2009, 10:01:58 pm
United States United States

Religion: searching
Posts: 20

Blog entries (0)



Ignore
« Topic Start: September 26, 2009, 04:29:05 pm »

I have recently renewed my efforts to discover my path and spirituality.  I feel that I've always been on a path, so to speak, in that for me, a lot of the path is the searching process, so I guess one could say my path is that of searching.  Wink

However, in this renewed effort I had a flash of a thought that I needed to conduct a ceremony/ritual that marked the beginning of a new era for me.  This line of thinking was specifically in regard to becoming an adult.  I am the chronological age of an adult ... and then some, Cheesy but I feel like I am also ready to become an adult spiritually and emotionally speaking. 

My thinking on this began when I saw my stuffed animal which I have had since I was 6.  I loved this ratty thing for many years, but now it really is little more than a stuffed animal to me.  Ordinarily I would give something like this to the Salvation Army or something similar so that another child could love and enjoy it.  However, this is a battered and ratty old thing and I know that most parents would not allow their child to play with such a thing, and rightfully so, even I don't know where it's been.  Cheesy  But this stuffed animal represents the child me, and more importantly I feel it represents my child-like thinking and feeling.  My idea for this ceremony is not to rid/wipe out/forget my childhood or child self.  That is and always will be an important part of myself, but to rather acknowledge that it is there but that it is not the main part that should be in charge.  It is time for the adult to take over, to drive the thinking and feeling.  The child will always be there but it is now time to take care of the child, to nurture it and lovingly discipline it.  There are rules and boundaries that need to be set for this child that has too long had the run of the house. 

So my question is does anyone have any suggestions or cautions on how to go about doing such a thing.  I have a basic/vague idea of what I want to do, but I was looking for any cautions as to the repercussions of doing such a thing.  I don't want to dabble in things I have no right to dabble in or perhaps am not ready to dabble in and just wanted to ask those who are more experienced than I if doing such a thing might be fraught with hazards that I am not taking into consideration.
Logged

Welcome, Guest!
You will need to register and/or login to participate in our discussions.

Read our Rules and Policies and the Quoting Guidelines.

Help Fund Our Server? Donate to Lyricfox's Cancer Fund?

Darkhawk
Chief Mux Wizard
Staff
Adept Member
***
*
Last Login:June 19, 2022, 03:47:05 pm
United States United States

Religion: Kemetic Feri Discordian
Posts: 2485

Blog entries (0)

WWW
« Reply #1: September 27, 2009, 12:54:21 pm »


My immediate thought was that ancient Greek custom was for girls to offer their childhood toys to Artemis when they were getting married, as a sign they were setting aside things-of-childhood for things-of-adulthood.
Logged

alah01
Apprentice
**
Last Login:September 23, 2010, 01:41:23 am
Canada Canada

Religion: Solitary Wiccan
Posts: 30


Blog entries (0)



Ignore
« Reply #2: September 27, 2009, 10:31:07 pm »

I have read your post and find it intrigueing. I find myself automatically referring to a ritual from a book that i believe very useful. the ritual I am referring to is a self-dedication rite. In witch it says to open a circle and useing anointing oil, to draw particular symbols on certain parts of the body and concentrate ur desires while gazing into a candle flame. Now I seen on ur profile that you may not be a Solitary wiccan, such as myself. So this may not be perfect for you but hopefully it can give you an idea of somthing you might want to do. I hoped that helped in some degree.
Logged
Star
Message Board Coordinator
Senior Staff
Grand Adept Member
****
Last Login:January 12, 2013, 08:36:08 am
United States United States

Religion: Hellenic Reconstructionist
TCN ID: star
Posts: 9033


Etcetera, Whatever

Blog entries (0)

ilaynay starcr
WWW
« Reply #3: September 28, 2009, 07:56:59 am »


Just a quick note, alah01...  Please don't forget to use the quote/reply function when replying and leave the quote code in.  It really helps the rest of us follow the conversation (and is required by our rules).  Smiley  Thanks!
Logged

"The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced."
-- Aart Van Der Leeuw

Main Blog:  Star's Journal of Random Thoughts
Religious Blog:  The Song and the Flame
I can also now be found on Goodreads.
elahrairah
Apprentice
**
Last Login:November 10, 2009, 10:01:58 pm
United States United States

Religion: searching
Posts: 20

Blog entries (0)



Ignore
« Reply #4: September 29, 2009, 01:13:20 pm »


Thank you both for your suggestions.  I will look into both of them more so I can come up with something that fits my needs. 

Thanks again!

elah
Logged
Phoenix_Rae
Senior Apprentice
**
Last Login:May 04, 2011, 10:56:29 pm
United States United States

Religion: Wiccan Witch
Posts: 55

Blog entries (0)

WWW

Ignore
« Reply #5: October 16, 2009, 05:52:51 pm »

... in this renewed effort I had a flash of a thought that I needed to conduct a ceremony/ritual that marked the beginning of a new era for me.  This line of thinking was specifically in regard to becoming an adult.  I am the chronological age of an adult ... and then some, Cheesy but I feel like I am also ready to become an adult spiritually and emotionally speaking. 

... My idea for this ceremony is not to rid/wipe out/forget my childhood or child self.  That is and always will be an important part of myself, but to rather acknowledge that it is there but that it is not the main part that should be in charge.  It is time for the adult to take over, to drive the thinking and feeling. ...

So my question is does anyone have any suggestions or cautions on how to go about doing such a thing.  I have a basic/vague idea of what I want to do, but I was looking for any cautions as to the repercussions of doing such a thing.  ...

I'm not certain if you are still looking for ideas, but I completely understand where you are coming from. Strangely, I've earned my B.A., been married for 4 years, a Mom for 2, and a Wiccan/Witch for 12 years (8 as "lay", 4 actively practicing). But this year on my 26th birthday I *finally* felt that I have been initiated into adulthood-I finally feel like an adult.

I think that it is good of you to want to honor your child self--I actually did this myself. The magical name I chose in high school was "Brijrian" (for Brigid and Rhiannon). Shortly after my birthday I released this name--but this name has gotten me through a lot of trauma healing, life events, and lessons. So I released it as an honored ancestor--and it is: it is the ancestor of who I am today. To continue to remember and honor my history (and remember the lessons!) I have a rock on my altar which I have placed in honor of "Brijrian".

The biggest repercussion to watch for after this rite is the taking on of responsibility. If you are ready to be an "adult" and have a ceremony marking it so in presence of the Gods--they will take you seriously. I have had several, several lessons in the past few months and responsibilities given/taken on. They (my Dieties) expect me to do work on myself and to improve the world around me (specifically in my family and the local pagan community).

You might want to keep your childhood toy on your altar in memory of who you were and where you came from (after all, your past is always right behind you!). If it is too big, you can take some clay and make a smaller replica of it to keep. Perhaps you would want to bury your special toy (if it is biodegradable) and occasionally visit and honor its' 'grave'. Another idea is to burn it with the intention of honoring and releasing all of the childhood energies to fuel your adult maturation and growth. The most important thing is that your ceremony feel right to you.

I hope you have (or had!) a meaningful rite of passage.

*Phoenix
Logged
elahrairah
Apprentice
**
Last Login:November 10, 2009, 10:01:58 pm
United States United States

Religion: searching
Posts: 20

Blog entries (0)



Ignore
« Reply #6: October 18, 2009, 06:19:44 pm »

[...]
The biggest repercussion to watch for after this rite is the taking on of responsibility. If you are ready to be an "adult" and have a ceremony marking it so in presence of the Gods--they will take you seriously. I have had several, several lessons in the past few months and responsibilities given/taken on. They (my Dieties) expect me to do work on myself and to improve the world around me (specifically in my family and the local pagan community).

You might want to keep your childhood toy on your altar in memory of who you were and where you came from (after all, your past is always right behind you!). If it is too big, you can take some clay and make a smaller replica of it to keep. Perhaps you would want to bury your special toy (if it is biodegradable) and occasionally visit and honor its' 'grave'. Another idea is to burn it with the intention of honoring and releasing all of the childhood energies to fuel your adult maturation and growth. The most important thing is that your ceremony feel right to you.
[...]

thank you for your reply and for your ideas and suggestions.  it is nice to know that i am not the only "adult" who has felt the need to become an adult in earnest. Smiley  i am still meditating and working on what my ceremony will be, i feel that it will be a big endeavor so i must give it the proper attention and make sure that i am truly ready for it.  i very much like your suggestion of keeping a replica of the item to be given back on my altar.  i think that would be a very appropriate way for me to honor my child self and all that i have learned from her.  i am getting closer to being ready to do the ceremony, but i think it will take a few more weeks for me to be truly ready.  and thank you for the heads up on the repercussions of such a ceremony, that is a very important thing for me to keep in mind as i do have a tendency to shy away from responsibilities and i know that is something i need to work on and face head on.  i want to make sure that i do the ceremony during a time when i can give it my full attention and since i am very drawn to the element of earth i am noticing that my time line tends to be long and slow ... like the earth. Smiley

thank you again for your ideas.

elah
Logged

Donor Ad: Become a Silver or Gold Donor to get your ad here.

Tags:
Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Add bookmark  |  Print  
 
Jump to:  
  Portal   Forum   Help Rules Search Chat (Mux) Articles Login Register   *

* Share this topic...
In a forum
(BBCode)
In a site/blog
(HTML)


Related Topics
Subject Started by Replies Views Last post
Coming big news! Ritual?
Teen Pagans SIG
Kasmira 6 3283 Last post April 11, 2007, 09:51:39 am
by Kasmira
Samhain Ritual Ideas
Holidays and Festivals
Nehet 9 12916 Last post October 31, 2009, 08:58:11 pm
by Nehet
Ritual versus Ceremony
Worship and Ritual
Carnelian 6 3279 Last post December 19, 2009, 01:30:49 pm
by Tana
Initiation / Coming-of-Age Rituals: Advice, Experiences? « 1 2 »
Pagan Parents SIG
Ali 17 17517 Last post January 24, 2011, 10:35:59 pm
by dragonfaerie
IMPORTANT: New Vbulletin Board 4.x Coming (Ideas Wanted) « 1 2 3 »
Board Questions, Suggestions, and Feedback
RandallS 37 21733 Last post May 22, 2011, 02:22:39 pm
by RandallS
EU Cookie Notice: This site uses cookies. By using this site you consent to their use.


Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2008, Simple Machines
TinyPortal v0.9.8 © Bloc
Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!
Page created in 0.175 seconds with 43 queries.