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Author Topic: Adulthood, Independence, and Ceremony  (Read 5610 times)
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« Reply #6: March 28, 2010, 11:23:49 am »

High school graduation maybe.  College graduation for some people; by the time I got to it, myself, it felt anticlimactic and just...  blah.

Same here, though I saw it as an unfortunate effect of the public education system working it's anticlimatic blahness on the whole concept of being a "young adult."

To answer the original question, I thought that going to college in another state would be my rite of passage. In a way, it was, but not into becoming an independent adult. It was a rite of passage into becoming more fully self-aware. Which, I guess you can argue is what being an adult is all about.

I'm currently living with my parents again, after graduating college, and I still don't feel like an adult. I do my own taxes, bought my own car, but I'm still on my parents' health insurance, still eat their groceries, and owe them money for that car. *shrug*

However, I am going on an adventure soon, which is quickly becoming a great opportunity to mark another rite of passage: perhaps not into full "adulthood", whatever that means, but into my self-directed life. Which, again, you can argue what being an adult is all about.  Smiley

I think my family will want me to feel like an "adult", and expect me to be an adult, in the cultural sense of the word, when I have my own health insurance, and pay my own rent. Or if I get married.

But frankly, none of these marks of adulthood are really that meaningful to me, because "adulthood" in the cultural sense of the word is not meaningful to me at all. Being able to pay for my own needs is important, yes, but the trappings of responsibility and all the baggage of expectations and obligations of being an adult are pretty distasteful to me, for the most part, in that they are thrust onto you without your consent. I don't think that really warrants the shift in consciousness that I think a rite requires.

I'd like to feel more like a "fully-actualized me" than an adult, and so far, my own feelings of rites have been toward that end instead. When I am an adult, I hope it will be on my own terms, and not on everyone else's.

/strangely rebellious feelings  Tongue

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