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Author Topic: Adulthood, Independence, and Ceremony  (Read 5347 times)
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« Reply #7: March 28, 2010, 11:52:30 am »

So my question for TC folks who are either approaching this point or have passed it (recently or otherwise) is how did/will you mark this passage? If you didn't/won't, why not? Does this fit under the title of spiritual practice or is it unrelated to your spiritual path?

This is a good discussion, thank you for starting it Kasmira!  Smiley

For me, it had gone on for about a decade now. I'm 23, but I started breaking away when I was in junior high school. It began with small things, like washing my own clothes. Over the following couple of years, I started using my allowance money to buy my own clothing and meals. When I got my first car at the age of 18 (a van that had a leak in the steering fluid compartment... fun times!), I would drive my friends around everywhere.

As I got into college, I began to start gaining self respect and worth, and I tried harder in classes. Over time, a professor (now my friend and mentor) took me down to the school newspaper, and helped me get a gig as a staff reporter. I forced myself to break through my extremely shy self to interview people, and found I had a knack for getting quotes. A year later, I became the editor of the paper, which was a great responsibility, and departure from the person I was when I first decided to develop on my lonesome and do my own laundry as a teen.   Smiley

Each year has been a gradual progression, and now I live on my own, and function well enough with a part time job and school, where I'm getting honors level grades. Don't get me wrong, I couldn't do this without financial help from my grandpa, but I help him with job work and other stuff, so I'm not "dependent" upon him.

Growing up, I had always had low self esteem, and bad living environment as well as parents and step parent (beyond what society defines as abusive). I try being more merciful when talking about them, but it really is hard. What really gets me depressed about the whole thing these days, is I'd like to start a family of my own someday, but I've never had a working relationship model to model myself of. The whole thing is a foreign world to me, since I've always functioned best alone. The danger is if I'm not careful, I'll wind up no better of a person than they are, and of course that impacts any and all desires I have when pursuing relationships. Needless to say, I don't get many dates!   Tongue

Stepping out on ones own is a necessary thing in order for one to live. It's not easy, and there will always be struggles. But to those reading that are thinking about it, I highly recommend doing so. You'll be better because of it.   Cheesy

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