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Author Topic: Children and Your Altar.  (Read 12631 times)
Vella Malachite
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« Reply #39: October 18, 2010, 10:35:14 pm »

I was terrified of my father growing up, so I sure as HELL toed the line.  To me, there's nothing wrong with a little healthy fear, and kids don't have that anymore.  Parents just don't follow through with their threats. I work in retail. All the time I see parents saying things like, "No, honey, put that down. We can't get it." And then they buy it for the kid.  Or they'll give the threat of "We're going to have X punishment happen if you don't behave"... and of course, never do.

I have to kinda agree - I think that a lot of parents are too afraid to punish their kids for fear of being labelled a 'bad parent', but I couldn't cite any other reasons, not having enough experience there.  I'm sure there are other reasons, too - working parents just too tired to deal with it f'ex...

I was never afraid of my parents growing up, but I'm known as one of the most angelic kids most people ever knew (isn't that sickening?  Roll Eyes )  I only ever threw two tantrums (but boy, were they good ones), and I never slept more than a few hours at a time, but was happy anyway.  It's just that my parents knew that I hated being embarrassed, and that being told off in public was embarrassing.  So eventually, all Mum had to do was clear her throat, and that meant "that's wrong.  I won't tell you off if you stop now, but I will if you keep going", and I stopped, because I hated being told off.  Everyone thought Mum was the magic mother!
I guess it's finding what rewards and punishments work for your kids, really...and staying firm.  If my Mum had given in and not carried out threats, I probably wouldn't have listened to her half as often.

I must say that I find the My First Pagan sets highly amusing...Not because they wouldn't work, but because they would work so well!
Not knowing much about kids, I have to ask...would giving a child its own altar stop or discourage it from messing with one's own?  After a certain age, say three or so, can distinctions be made between "my altar" and "Mummy's altar" (or 'Daddy's altar'...)?
OOOH, OOOH!  Mix 'n' match DIY My First Altar kits!!  "Your altar can be Just Like Mummy's!!"
*ahem*.  Moment over.
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