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« Reply #44: October 19, 2010, 08:39:57 am »

Just as an example of the 'one size does not fit all' thing, I grew up with no fear whatsoever and still toed the line.

My parents were free spirits who sold the motorcycle when they started having kids (they debated just getting a sidecar but decided they would probably have more than one eventually).  They never raised their hands and seldom their voices.  They raised four kids and fourteen foster-kids whose biggest parent-related fears were of disappointing them.

We did not act up in stores because getting to go in the first place was such a rare treat we didn't want to get left home next time.  We said Mr. and Mrs. because only peers used first names.  We argued with courtesy because if we didn't our points would not be heard.  We were allowed to argue as soon as we could do it properly - until then we listened.  (my family are extremely wordy and opinionated)

Once only, when my brother had done something truly egregious, my father offered him the choice between being grounded or getting a spanking.  My brother chose the spanking and my poor father had to go through with it.  He was not a wimp - he was a trained commando and had served on a submarine chaser, and he was a bouncer when my mom met him.  Both of them could take care of themselves and had, but the idea of hitting one of their children made them physically ill.

A lot of people saw our family as some kind of hippy commune but we had the right combination of natures for it to work.  It was sheer luck - stricter discipline would not have improved us (and, being kids, we were monsters in our own ways) and laxer would not have ruined us.  Seeing us lined up in the grocery store getting to choose one kind of cereal each (a huge treat), the cashiers probably approved of the seeming strictness, and seeing the occasional public meltdown would have had them dismissing us as poorly parented.  Neither is an accurate picture - just a frozen snapshot from one perspective, and not enough to form a valid judgment from.


Your parents sound pretty damn awesome.

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