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To me, this question is about the same as asking, "Marriages once involved unions based on both political maneuvering and one's station in society. This meant that girls were forced to marry often against their will, meaning that in some cases, parents sent these girls to wedding beds of acceptable rape... often girls who were, in our eyes, still children... thirteen, fourteen years old. How can you reconcile that in your modern practice of matrimony?"
Times and practices change. What is acceptable for one generation isnot necessarily acceptable for the next. Doesn't mean the structure of my religious inner temple is shaky just becaise the foundation is made of different materials than what we use today.