First off, Arynn, thanks for taking the time for that thoughtful reply.
I have to confess, though, that much of your post makes me, as a modern-day guy, uncomfortable. It reads like: "Deep down inside, she really wanted it"--that hoary delusion used to justify rape today. Is that really what the myths contain? Or is that us giving them that spin so that we don't have to feel awkward about gods we otherwise are drawn to?
I'm not saying you may not have a point--with our distance in time and culture, can we really know what subtleties are at work in the myths?--but I'd by very wary of accepting that interpretation without more to back it up, if only because for me it feeds an attitude that in today's context I find abhorrent.