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« Topic Start: April 04, 2011, 06:19:20 am »

So, as some of you may know because of my post in the There! I Said It thread, my school is currently experiencing a teacher's strike. I am fully on the teachers' side, because they are striking for our educations, and VIU has been completely unwilling to compromise, bargain, anything.

It's looking like school won't start up again until after the 11th of April, which would extend our semester until mid to late May (and postpone -- or maybe even cancel -- our summer semesters). I need to take classes full time this summer if I want to graduate next April, and also if I want to, um, live. Student Loans are what I get supported by and I only get them if I'm in school full time. If summer semesters are cancelled then I have to go out and find a job...

...except I can't search for a job until I get an answer from the school, and that may not happen for another week or so. The job climate here is so bad I may be all out of luck for jobs by that time. (And I was planning on getting a work-op job from the University anyway, if I could swing it, because they let you set your own hours and the jobs are student-friendly.)

This whole fiasco has made me think that I don't even want to go to VIU anymore -- I've had my problems with the school before and this just takes the cake. I've looked into alternate programs and have found one at SFU, in Burnaby. It looks pretty good, I've heard good things about SFU, and moving to Burnaby would mean being much closer to my boyfriend, and would mean I would get to pursue my dream of burlesque dancing much sooner.

(And this of course has brought up feelings of melancholy regarding the fact that for as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be an actress and Vancouver is the place to do it. So I'm even considering going for that as a career option instead of my current plan -- Masters in Library and Information Sciences.)

I'm feeling utterly confused and lost and not sure at all what I want. I did two Tarot readings to try and clear this stuff up and basically got these answers: "If you stay at VIU, things will be easy but you'll be unhappy, and if you go to SFU, you will have to work incredibly hard and you will want to die -- but the rewards will be well worth it." And about my career choice: "Acting is your dream, but it could also be your nightmare. Choosing to be a librarian is you running from something -- but fleeing is one of our instincts for a reason. Are you running for the right reasons?"

Thank you, Tarot, for clearing that up. /sarcasm.

Anyway, depending on how my phone call to SFU tomorrow goes, I may be choosing to move there by the end of this summer. And I feel split down the middle about all this, because it may mean extending my time in university (some of my courses may not transfer) -- but I'd get to Vancouver sooner. But, I'd be leaving the life I've built up in Nanaimo, and my nice basement suite, and my best friend who lives just down the road from me....

*flails*

Thoughts? Advice? Sympathy cookies?

Thanks in advance.

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« Reply #1: April 04, 2011, 07:15:46 am »

Thoughts? Advice? Sympathy cookies?


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1) It will all be OK in the end. Really. I know it sounds like a stupid platitude--it IS a stupid platitude--but it's also true.
2) Burlesque? Cool! Not sure if there's a living in it, though; maybe pursue it on the side, for extra cash? That said...

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Do what you love, if at all possible. Something that you'd do anyway in your free time, but find a way to make it pay.

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« Reply #2: April 04, 2011, 08:32:14 am »



Obviously I can't make the choice for you, but my experience has shown me that taking the riskier route to realize more opportunities and happiness paid off.

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« Reply #3: April 04, 2011, 08:52:35 am »


My advice (watch out, there's no sugar in it)--there is Nothing Wrong with changing schools, if you feel like that's the most viable option for you. But I think there's a difference between making an informed decision based on what's best for you, as in the possibility of changing schools, and taking the safe route when you'd be happier somewhere else, which is how the library science program sounds to me. I don't think you'd have the relationship with tM that you have if you were intended to take the safe routes--my experience with her has been of the goddess of the hard way, who makes us fight the things we have to be brave enough to face.

Also, until you've talked to SFU, don't flail yet. Remember to breathe.
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« Reply #4: April 04, 2011, 09:50:12 am »


You need to do whatever it may be that is best for you, whichever way that may be.

I haven't got cookies but will homemade chocolate tart do instead?
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« Reply #5: April 04, 2011, 11:13:45 am »




The hard thing is usually the right thing.  sigh.

No cookies, but I do have some Godiva chocolate liqueur...
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« Reply #6: April 04, 2011, 12:41:37 pm »


Hm. Just cookies for now. Let me think about this (and I don't mean that as a lame excuse for not typing out advice). I can't guarantee that I'll come up with any other advice than what's been said, but I'll go to Our Mutual Friend with this on my mind.

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« Reply #7: April 04, 2011, 01:45:32 pm »


Going very simplisticly at this - what happens if you go looking for jobs anyway and cancel if things turn out differently? It is not the most elegant of ways but if that's what needed...

Other than that, I think I can only offer sympathetic thoughts.
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« Reply #8: April 04, 2011, 02:39:25 pm »


Unfortunately all I have for you are sympathy cookies. ((((Morag)))) You have some tough decisions to make.
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« Reply #9: April 04, 2011, 10:25:28 pm »


Not much to offer besides sympathy cookies except to say that I'm going through a similar safe vs. risky life choice at the moment and, well, um *offers more sympathy cookies*. These choices suck...

Remember though, neither choice is "bad". That's why it's so hard to decide. And whichever way things go I'm sure there'll be ups and downs, hopefully mostly ups. Best of luck with your decisions!
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« Reply #10: April 05, 2011, 01:23:34 am »

Thoughts? Advice? Sympathy cookies?

-Morag

Sympathy cookies galore. My advice would be go for the risky choice but only if you have a safety net or backup plan just in case. I mean as in if things go wrong how do you avoid living on the street type plan. If you can put together one of those than I thonk it gives you the safety to be able to make the choice that feels right.
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« Reply #11: April 06, 2011, 01:39:20 am »

Thoughts? Advice? Sympathy cookies?

Thanks in advance.

-Morag

I can only give the vague and slightly maddening adage of "Follow your heart."  You can't go wrong with that.

*hands over sympathy milk or sympathy almond milk (if you don't drink dairy or are lactose intolerant) for all those sympathy cookies*
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« Reply #12: April 06, 2011, 07:50:22 am »


Thank you, everyone, for the advice, cookies, chocolate tart, etc...I am feeling fat and sassy.

I have made my decision. I've looked at it every which way, done soul searching, and more Tarot readings (and my cards were a bit more forthcoming -- yay!). I'm staying at VIU, because it's the fastest way to my degree, and at this point I can't justify to myself spending another year or two to get this degree, when I can be done with it by April next year. (Also, Vancouver = bloody expensive. No way I'd be able to save up the amount I need to move there 6 months or more earlier than planned.)

I've also made further decisions:

-I'm not going for my MLIS after graduating from VIU.
-I am still moving to Vancouver, but now my plan is to enroll at SFU for a secondary undergrad degree, because that's what I really want to do. (My second degree will most likely be in English.)
-I am also going to be pursuing my career as an actor again as well as starting with the burlesque.
-I'm awesome.

I'm feeling a lot better now that my mind is made up, and I'll be feeling 100% again once classes start up!

I think the best part about deciding to pursue acting again is the outpouring of support my mom immediately gave me. It means it's the right thing to do -- my mom's reactions are the compass by which I set my course.

I'm not sure if that made any sense...so I'm going to quickly reply to a few specific posts, and then I'm off to bed.

Again, thanks everyone for your advice and sympathy. It meant a lot to me and gave me a lot of support while I battled this out. Smiley
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« Reply #13: April 06, 2011, 07:59:25 am »

2) Burlesque? Cool! Not sure if there's a living in it, though; maybe pursue it on the side, for extra cash?

There is and there isn't...not in doing strictly burlesque, but in doing the other theatrical things that branch out from it as well. Melody Mangler, the queen of burlesque in Vancouver (in my view), is a big part of the Screaming Chickens Theatrical Society (which is member-run), and she does various other theatrical, film, acting-type things (including a bit in Caprica). I'm not sure if she actually makes a living from it, though.

So, I won't be quitting my day job just yet. (What day job?!) Wink
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« Reply #14: April 06, 2011, 07:59:42 am »

My advice (watch out, there's no sugar in it)--there is Nothing Wrong with changing schools, if you feel like that's the most viable option for you. But I think there's a difference between making an informed decision based on what's best for you, as in the possibility of changing schools, and taking the safe route when you'd be happier somewhere else, which is how the library science program sounds to me. I don't think you'd have the relationship with tM that you have if you were intended to take the safe routes--my experience with her has been of the goddess of the hard way, who makes us fight the things we have to be brave enough to face.

I know, right?

I realized in my soul searching that staying at VIU is actually the tougher choice -- because I am one of those people who has trouble doing the actual work with something that doesn't fully grab my attention or make me happy, staying here to finish my degree when I no longer have any faith in the University will be an incredibly hard task.

And then there's the acting...definitely not the safe bet. But the right one.
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