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« Reply #24: June 20, 2011, 03:16:19 pm »

The ideas that you can avoid this behavior by dressing and carrying yourself differently being expressed around in this thread make me very uncomfortable, I have to admit. There's no definition of what screams CREEP MAGNET when you walk down a street. I live near Manhattan and go there often and I've been hit on in creepy ways no matter what I'm wearing. Men who do that are men with no concept of personal boundaries. Their issues have nothing to do with you or anything you're doing.

So unfortunately, there's really nothing you can do to guarantee its avoidance. These guys just come out of the woodwork when they will, especially in the summer months. Remember there is nothing wrong with walking away, telling them to stop, or striking up a conversation with someone else to show solidarity. These are all tactics I've used. Whatever you feel comfortable doing to make yourself feel safer, you should do it; you're not obligated to stand there and let their behavior continue. I just want to emphasize that there is nothing you're doing wrong in these situations. I guarantee it. Nothing.

I know I can avoid creepers depending on the way I act. Actually, creepers leaving me alone is the norm, but if I dress up all nice and feminine, smile a lot (as long as it's a friendly smile - I apparently normally smile like I'm about to cause trouble), and walk in a less masculine manner, I'll get the occasional creep coming up to me. But normally, wearing shorts and a t-shirt and looking a bit pissed off or maybe a little crazy, everyone just leaves me alone. I can walk down a street in town with a bad reputation alone in the middle of the night and not be bothered once. Or ride the bus down that street and have no problems. Most people I know are very uncomfortable walking down that street or riding that bus - they get bothered when they do. But not me.

And I don't know if this has to do with the way I carry myself or not. However, like I said, if I'm not acting normal, I might get bothered. All that being said, I don't think that people should have to alter their appearance or behavior just to avoid creeps. It's not their fault a creep is bothering them. However, if someone wants to, they can alter their behavior if they really hate the creeps. Not saying they have to, nor would I tell someone complaining about creeps to do so, but it is an option. Although I'm not sure if that works for everyone or if it's just me.
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