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[Shaylee]

If this happened years ago, and it's still having an effect on your friend's life, she may benefit from talking to a counsellor of some description.  It clearly sounds like it had a huge impact on her life, so speaking to a professional may be something she'd find useful.

Quote from: Oaksworn on Today at 11:16:55 am
I think the more elegant solution would be to perform a working that would release her tie to this event and allow her to move on with her life with whatever lesson she can gain from the experience.
 
Rose wrote:
I would agree with this. I have had really excellent and dramatic healing from doing unbinding and uncording rituals. There are lots of really good ones around, and it is worth doing a little research into it. I would also agree that anything that has been carried around for a long time in a restricted space (like a small town) should be dealt with in a therapeutic setting as well. Magick and a good therapist in tandem work wonders and miracles, ime.

RandallS wrote:
I hate to say it, but are you sure the former BF should be the only target/main target of this spell. It sounds like the people who did most of the actual harm were the people he talked to. Yes, he shouldn't have talked, but the others are guilty of actually doing the damage.

Hello All,

EverFool, this is excellent advice but she is not willing to go for counseling because she has developed trust issues and would not "open up". I kind of wonder if there was more to the experience than appears on the surface. Not sure if the guy or one who helped him was practicing any craft or not. She has a history of attracting the wrong sort since- abusive types who have no respect for her feelings. I know that she is responsible for who she lets into her life, but I would like to see if an unbinding could free her from this self defeating pattern or possibly dissolve an old spell.     

Rose, thanks for recommending unbinding and uncording rituals. I am new to more formal ritual and am unfamiliar with these but I will gladly look into this.

RandallS, I totally agree, that is why I'm trying to be as careful as I can- I just would like to help her heal, if I can, and teach her how to protect herself. After so much time and so many people involved, it's hard to tell who did what.


Thank you all for your kind help.

Shaylee

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