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« Topic Start: October 18, 2007, 01:56:25 pm »

I know that in the beginning of my study, I was afraid to do anything, even cast a circle (to this day I have only done it once).  I know that other people are nervous at first, so if this has been your experience, how did you cope with this?  And what of doubt?  How did you get over the "I feel stupid" phase?
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« Reply #1: October 18, 2007, 02:35:12 pm »

I know that other people are nervous at first, so if this has been your experience, how did you cope with this?  And what of doubt?  How did you get over the "I feel stupid" phase?

I'm probablly a bit of an extreme. When Apollo first knocked on my door, I'd never even considered paganism before; my step-mother was intrested in it, but never practiced and I wasn't really drawn to it.

Then out of the blue there he was, I don't even remember when I first realized it was him, I think I always kind of knew he was there. But when I really understood what was going on, I freaked.

Past-lives came back in flashes, and suddenly there were "spirits" popping up, so I made the executive decision to avoid Apollo like the plauge. I knew there was no going back, so I tried to find a good line of work with Hermes, Ares, and Athena. All of whom sort of patted me on the back and then pushed me back on my way, well Athena did at least. With Ares it was more of a shove, and I'm pretty sure Hermes would have kept me, but fate is fate.

So now I'm where I'm supposed to be, or at least working towards it. I'm still a little rusty, but I'm getting better at this whole communing with the "ghosts" and the bunnies thing. (Except that my "bunnies" are small green men-critters that run around my room at night. Hmmm...)

Personally, I think that initial fear was more the fear of my whole life being flipped on upside down more than anything. I still to this day am not quite sure why I was running, but I did and it's made me the person I am today. I learned a lot about patience, strength, and a hell of a lot about forgiveness, and with out those I wouldn't be able to make it now. So in the end, it all worked out, fate is fate. It happens like it's supposed to happen.
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« Reply #2: October 18, 2007, 02:43:14 pm »

I know that in the beginning of my study, I was afraid to do anything, even cast a circle (to this day I have only done it once).  I know that other people are nervous at first, so if this has been your experience, how did you cope with this?  And what of doubt?  How did you get over the "I feel stupid" phase?

Honestly, I've been Pagan for years and I still encounter it at times. You know what I do? To quote a friend of mine, "just plow through". Just force myself to keep going.
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« Reply #3: October 18, 2007, 03:01:15 pm »

Honestly, I've been Pagan for years and I still encounter it at times. You know what I do? To quote a friend of mine, "just plow through". Just force myself to keep going.

Yup! Cheesy I've been at this since late 1988 and sometimes I still feel like ... "What am I doing?? I feel so silly." But then I laugh it off and go on.
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« Reply #4: October 18, 2007, 03:13:47 pm »

I know that in the beginning of my study, I was afraid to do anything, even cast a circle (to this day I have only done it once).  I know that other people are nervous at first, so if this has been your experience, how did you cope with this?  And what of doubt?  How did you get over the "I feel stupid" phase?

Doubt is good.  Doubt keeps us honest with ourselves.  Without doubt, spirituality stagnates.  Don't fear doubt.  Turn things over until they sing to you, and if they never do, get rid of them, as they aren't truly your beliefs.  I'm with a lot of people here in thinking that if your faith doesn't make you a little uncomfortable, you're not doing it right.

As for feeling stupid, same advice.  I suspect this sensation springs from doubt as well, so lather, rinse, repeat, and see what comes of it all.  Wink

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« Reply #5: October 18, 2007, 03:15:32 pm »

Yup! Cheesy I've been at this since late 1988 and sometimes I still feel like ... "What am I doing?? I feel so silly." But then I laugh it off and go on.

Magic, like sex, looks silly in public.
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« Reply #6: October 18, 2007, 06:00:03 pm »

Doubt is good.  Doubt keeps us honest with ourselves.  Without doubt, spirituality stagnates.  Don't fear doubt.  Turn things over until they sing to you, and if they never do, get rid of them, as they aren't truly your beliefs. 

I definitely agree with this statment. Doubt isn't a bad thing, it gives you a chance to do some real soul searching and you may be suprised at what you find out about yourself and what you actually believe. Also, most people have doubts the first few times they do something, but don't be afraid to screw up. Experiment, find out what works for you.

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LOL, that is great! That should be on a t-shirt.

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« Reply #7: October 18, 2007, 07:38:35 pm »

Magic, like sex, looks silly in public.

I want that bumper sticker!  Grin
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« Reply #8: October 18, 2007, 10:45:17 pm »

I know that in the beginning of my study, I was afraid to do anything, even cast a circle (to this day I have only done it once).  I know that other people are nervous at first, so if this has been your experience, how did you cope with this?  And what of doubt?  How did you get over the "I feel stupid" phase?

This post hits close to home as I am much the same way.  I have done way, way more reading and talking than I have done DOING.  What helped me the most was getting involved.  I took a Wicca 101 course that was very fulfilling and started attending open circles for the Sabbats.  Once you see it done a half-dozen times or so, it doesn't seem as hard to do by yourself.  It is one thing to read the entire ritual out of a book and get overwhelmed, but once you see it done it doesn't seem so impossible after all.

Another thing that helped me was just trying to learn everything I could on the whole esoteric side of the spectrum.  Even though I am not interested in certain pantheons, it helped me to learn a little bit about each one.  And even though I am not interested in certain magical orders, it helped me to learn their history and the pattern of thought behind them.  Because eventually I decided that I was at the right place for me spiritually, knowing that I had researched and considered lots of alternatives that the average joe has never even HEARD about.
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« Reply #9: October 18, 2007, 11:15:27 pm »

Magic, like sex, looks silly in public.

Dania! ROFLMAO

I think I hurt something I was laughing so hard.
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« Reply #10: October 18, 2007, 11:21:41 pm »

Magic, like sex, looks silly in public.

Seems I heard that somewhere before. Smiley

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« Reply #11: October 19, 2007, 12:32:31 am »

Magic, like sex, looks silly in public.

Unless Dionysos is involved. Grin
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« Reply #12: October 19, 2007, 02:17:32 pm »

Seems I heard that somewhere before. Smiley

I know I have, but I don't recall where. It's one of those sayings that's been wandering around the internet for a while, in some form or another.
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