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« Reply #18: October 24, 2007, 11:17:53 pm »

I have a fairly limited definition of "abuse" compared to many people I met -- it covers all physical abuse, but is fairly limited on the mental abuse side as I find our society has gotten to seeing far too much as "abuse." For (an extreme) example, one of my former clients was always talking about how her husband abused her by not buying her everything she wanted. She considered this "abuse" every bit as bad as being beaten. I'm sorry, but not buying you whatever you happen to want regardless of cost is not even minimal abuse in my book.

I can understand that attitude, and to a certain extent I agree. However there are a wide variety of extremely subtle and devastating forms of emotional and psychic abuse that go well beyond spoiled rich girls not getting their shopping needs met. It is often very difficult to find people who even know what you are talking about in these situations, let alone believe you or support your leaving.

There are also lots of extremely compelling reasons *not to leave relationships that have gone south, at least not immediately; financial dependence, business partnerships, property, what the kids need, etc. It is seldom, ime, a problem with a simple solution. I think if I had had a clearer idea of what my faith *is, at the time I married, a lot of my marital difficulties would never have happened in the first place. So maybe just having a really solid notion of what you and your intended have faith in is a really good idea. Marriage is a complex and difficult contract to negotiate. It is not for wimps, that is for sure, whether or not is against one's religion to break up.
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  to accept with ease & grace what I cannot change.

  The power of Fire,
  for the energy & courage to change the things I can.

  The power of Air,
  for the ability and wisdom to know the difference.

  And the power of Earth,
  for the strength to continue my path.

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