Nope.

I'm saying that to require for someone else to worship the same deity as you are correctly that they must do so according to your perception of that deity is arrogant, pigeonholing and even impious.
Assuming that you speak for god, holds elements of hubris.
I see a huge difference in saying, "To worship God X, you must do Y" and "to be a member of this faith, you must do Y." One is a statement that limits the god. The other is a statement of community.
I don't understand why you're seeing it as the first one, given that I don't see anyone else even arguing that point.