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« Topic Start: June 11, 2008, 11:48:06 pm »

Hey,

I was having a conversation with my friend the other day on Gods and Goddess and I asked her what gender deity she responded more towards and she said Male, she said this was because she liked more of the father figure.

Myself I prefer female, I often gravitate towards Freyja more than Odin or Thor, and even when I was catholic one of the aspects I enjoyed more was Mary more so than Jesus. She asked why and I said I find it easier to communicate about Emotions with a female more so than a male. (You know because we are gruff testosterone guys grr (haha I am just playing around with that part))

This kinda dispells the notion to me that most people gravitate towards thier own sex as neithier of us did (though we may be the exception)

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?
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« Reply #1: June 12, 2008, 12:01:27 am »


Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?


Well, one of the reasons I was attracted to Paganism in the first place was the inclusion of the divine feminine. Though I realized after some study the feminist/Goddess spirituality area was not (though I am a feminist) I do tend to be more interested in goddesses like Hekate, Brigid, Freyja, Athena. It's not that I had an assumption that I would be aligned more with female deities, it just happened to be that way, at least for a while. But as time goes on it's balancing out, and some male deities I have an interest in are: Hermes, Dionysos, Lugh and Angus mac Og.
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« Reply #2: June 12, 2008, 12:04:19 am »

This kinda dispells the notion to me that most people gravitate towards thier own sex as neithier of us did (though we may be the exception)

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

No, I don't think that you're an exception. Yet for me it would be female (and I am female). To be honest, I can't really tell you why- I've often pondered it myself. Perhaps it is because I respond better to the female energy, or perhaps it is in fact because I respond better to the qualities that my Goddess holds, as opposed to my God.
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« Reply #3: June 12, 2008, 01:03:41 am »



Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?


When I was Christian, I was taught that God was male.  I never felt a connection to this god and I was initially attracted to Paganism because of the Divine Feminine/Goddess spirituality. 

I have more female human friends and as a general rule feel more comfortable around them for some reason. 

I do have more Goddesses: Aset, Nebet Het, Sekhmet, Nit, Oya, Oshun, Kwan Yin, Skadi

Over the years male deities have come into my life: Yinepu, Wepwawet, Oshoosi, Elegbara,
 Wesir, Heru Wer and Set have come by on occasion, but this is rare.

Nit and Oshoosi can also be both genders or Nit has been called "Father of Fathers, Mother of Mothers", and at least according to what I've read there is both a male and female Oshoosi. 
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« Reply #4: June 12, 2008, 01:27:57 am »

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

When I was stuck in a mindset that treated gender as relevant, I could only make contact with goddesses.

These days I'm split about fifty-fifty with a slight bias towards gods, which roughly matches my socialisation preferences in the seen world.
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« Reply #5: June 12, 2008, 01:48:35 am »

This kinda dispells the notion to me that most people gravitate towards thier own sex as neithier of us did (though we may be the exception)

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?


I have no idea why, but I definitely gravitate more towards female deities.  This is not to say I can't or haven't worked with male deities before (Hermes, Loki), nor that I automatically work well with female deities (coldly polite with Athena), but both deities I'm devoted to are goddessses (Arianrhod, the Morrigan).

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« Reply #6: June 12, 2008, 12:53:47 pm »

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

When I became pagan, I (and one of my friends) figured I'd mostly honor goddesses.  Well, my personal pantheon at the moment is about 2/3 male Beings and 1/3 female Beings.  I think it's more based on Those who called me and less on gender (which is one of those things that barely makes sense to me, at least in how it relates to me.)
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« Reply #7: June 12, 2008, 04:25:18 pm »

This kinda dispells the notion to me that most people gravitate towards thier own sex as neithier of us did (though we may be the exception)

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

If I were to gravitate toward deities of my own gender (as distinct from sex, natch), I would have a pretty difficult time of it. I guess there's Hermaphroditus, and a few queer figures here and there.

My relationship with gender could fill several very boring books, in short. I run up against it a lot in religion, which is a pain, and am in a lazy sort of way looking at queer/gender-variant spirituality movements; I feel like I'd be more at home there.
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« Reply #8: June 12, 2008, 05:17:37 pm »

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

Female, but it's based in some part on some serious abuse as a kid.  I just don't trust masculine authority figures.  I have had some small contact with a horned god that I've tentatively labled 'Cernunos' but there's a feeling of nurture there that I don't normally get from male figures.  Currently He's in the background content to wait until/if I am up to working with Him.

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« Reply #9: June 12, 2008, 05:30:59 pm »

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

When I first began practicing Paganism, I was pretty much balanced between god and goddess.  Nowadays, I gravitate more toward goddesses, although I still honor The Horned One, and Stalking Tiger, one of my animal spirits is male.  Great Spirit Bear is female, and I honor mainly Artemis, Kwan Yin, Pele, and The Lady of Nature.  Maybe it's because I'm single, have no children or man in my life, and I'm moving my way toward (through?) middle age on my way to Cronehood, and there's no real male influence in my life at the moment.
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« Reply #10: June 12, 2008, 06:49:53 pm »

Hey,

I was having a conversation with my friend the other day on Gods and Goddess and I asked her what gender deity she responded more towards and she said Male, she said this was because she liked more of the father figure.

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?


I don't think I have a preference, since I'd actually maintain a nice skeptic's distance.  Obviously (those here who know me KNOW, lol) this is not usually possible for me.  I think, initially, I really wanted to relate to the divine feminine---I wanted a mother.  But, twenty two years down the pagan road, I don't look for mother OR father anymore.  It is, oddly, more in touch with human spirit that I find myself at this point on the path.
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« Reply #11: June 12, 2008, 06:57:05 pm »



Male.  Unless I'm mistaken, he's been around almost my whole life, but for the longest time I just assumed he was my guardian angel.  There was a goddess helping me for a while, but I haven't felt her presence for a long time. 
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« Reply #12: June 12, 2008, 07:45:34 pm »

This kinda dispells the notion to me that most people gravitate towards thier own sex as neithier of us did (though we may be the exception)

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?

I was attracted to Paganism when I found it because of the duality. I feel like I really need both genders in my life. I'm the same way with friends, although my closest friends are the same gender (female). But I am growing equally close to my God and Goddess. I ask for help specifically depending on my issue, whoever's forte it fits into most comfortably, or both together. I sometimes tend to feel closer to the Goddess in winter and the God in summer, because of my male association with the sun.
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« Reply #13: June 12, 2008, 08:10:43 pm »

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This has actually been a real problem for me lately. My logical side tells me that I shouldn't have a preference. There is nothing in my religious path to push me towards one or the other (or towards some sort of a gender-bend), but I do anyway. Surprisingly enough, I'm drawn to female deity. I say 'surprisingly' because up until I got something visible in the chest area everyone mistook me for a guy, I dressed like a guy, acted like a guy, hung out with guys and enjoyed boyish activities. I'm an analytical thinker, my ethics are closer to the masculine model, I come out as 80% male on those quizzes you can take to see how your brain works. And to add to all that, while I am bisexual, I lean towards dating guys.

I had a great deal of trouble when Avalokiteshvara called me as he's male and I wanted him to be female. I'm sort of stumbling my way through that relationship.

I think that as I come into my feminine side I am clinging to female deities to help me out. I'm identifying more and more with my feminine characteristics and I want those to be things I share with my deities. I figure that I will grow into balance with time.
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« Reply #14: June 12, 2008, 10:26:08 pm »

This kinda dispells the notion to me that most people gravitate towards thier own sex as neithier of us did (though we may be the exception)

Anyways which do you find more appealing and why?
At the moment, but not exclusively, I identify more with gods. And surprisingly enough, the goddess I've felt the greatest connection with is Aphrodite, potentially one of the "girliest" goddesses out there. lol. Who's really got me now, though, is Odin.

I wouldn't say it's a "father figure" thing, or due to the fact that I am more "masculine" (quite the contrary, I think). I am, however, very clear headed and analytical in the sense that I don't follow my emotions on a whim. I think this might be more akin to a male type of aspect.
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