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Author Topic: Locating A Coven  (Read 3900 times)
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« Reply #8: March 17, 2009, 07:51:28 am »

yeh i have an account on there, but i've contacted groups that are meant to be around here and never heard anything back, so either they dont like me and are avoiding  me Tongue, or they dont exist or have different contact details now

Or there's something else going on - there was an email glitch, the person answering the email had a bunch of family demands, etc. It's really hard to tell from the outside about why someone doesn't answer your email. I've heard the same complaint from a lot of people locally (in part because I'm a bit obsessive about making sure that anyone who contacts us gets at least *some* answer if they seem even remotely serious.)

Stuff that you can do that helps:

1) Look at the sites for anything you might possibly be able to get to (especially in areas that don't have tons of choices.)
Look to learn a bit more about different groups - but also see if they have links to other events, networking communities, stores, or other resources you can check out. Not everyone advertises on Witchvox.

It may be worth checking out sites of groups in other areas of Australia. (Yes, it's a huge country, and you're not going to travel across half of it to go to an event, probably - but you might find other regional networking resources that would be of use.)

2) Write the best possible introduction email.
My dream email to get (after having read a lot of them, both for my former group, and a few for my current one) is 2-3 paragraphs at most, thoughtful, and with attention to detail. Do they indicate they've read the group's website or done other learning about us before emailing? Do they provide the information we ask for. Do they come across as a mature, thoughtful person we might want to have in the group? Did they spell my name (which is on the relevant websites) right if they use it?

My dream email says something like "Hi, I found out about you from [source]. I'm really interested in learning more about the group - I've read the website, and here's the stuff you request. [If there are any really urgent questions that would be an absolute barrier, ask them here]. Thanks for your time! [Their name]."

Spelling and punctuation aren't the things that make a great coven-mate - but taking a bit of time to produce the best email possible shows that someone's taking the process seriously, and that *is* important. The people who send "i want 2 be a witch, help me plz?" emails (and oh, boy, are they out there) tend, in many cases to go straight into most people's trash.

It's not the place for a big long rambling email about all of your past religious experience. (Gotten those. Sent at least one, and now cringe about it.) It's not a place for the "Help me with the weird thing that happened last week" - these people are total strangers right now, why do they care, and why would you trust their advice without knowing more about them anyway. And so on - these are all pretty common emails that group email addresses get, so setting yourself apart from them is a good way to encourage a response.

3) Be aware of other considerations.
In your case, your age might be particularly tricky based on the info in your profile - a lot of more structured covens strongly prefer someone who is over 20 (21 and 25 are common bottom limits, if 18 isn't). This isn't just for legal issues, but because someone who is out of college, moved out from their parents, working, etc. is in a different stage of life from someone who hasn't. It affects all sorts of things, from the very practical scheduling and timing considerations to the kinds of focus ritual might take. (All of which is to say that you may find you have more options in a few years than you do right now, for this reason alone.)

Also, Australia, as I understand it, has some particular complications due to space and isolation - it may be particularly useful for you to find email lists/networking resources that are not specifically coven-focused. Not only will you connect with other people directly, but you'll be better aware if stuff in your immediate local community changes (a new group forms, someone who is interested in leading a group moves into the area, etc.)

I've got a bunch of resources up on line - some are more my area focused, but you might find other parts of interest.
http://gleewood.org/phoenixsong/finding-groups-resources-and-thoughts

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