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« Reply #2: May 11, 2009, 09:12:11 am »

When Jews get a civil divorce, they may also get a religious divorce.  If you are Orthodox, you must have the religious divorce before you are allowed to marry again in the synagogue.  Traditionally, this consisted of the man giving a get (divorce contract to his wife).  Women could not initiate religious divorce.  (As usual, things are different in the Reform tradition.  Many Reform Jews don't bother religious divorce, and those that do make a ceremony that is right for them.  For example, in my synagogue, one divorcing couple brought their ketubah (wedding contract) to the rabbi's office and cut it into pieces.)

My question is this:  do any of your religions have rituals associated with divorce?  If so what are they?  What useful purpose (if any) do you think divorce rituals serve?

I'd love to hear more about this too.  In one of the books I read recently (and I've read so many I can't remember which one), I remember mention of a pagan divorce ritual.  It was like a reversal of an handfasting (I'll see if I can find it).  I remember thinking what a great idea it is to have a spiritual ending to a marriage.  My marriage was so easy to do, but the divorce took almost a year, lawyers and more money than I care to think about.  It left me feeling angry and bitter.  I did make up my own personal ritual on the one year divorceiversary which included writing down my feelings, burning them and reading a poem I'd written.  For me, it was very cleansing and I really have felt better since.  I wish I could have done it with my X or that he were able to do something similar so he too could let go and move forward.


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