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« Topic Start: July 10, 2009, 10:16:32 pm »

Spiritually speaking, I am lost. Very lost.

Please don't put down the "You're just a teen" card immediately when you read this, because to me, it's more then just me being a teen.

I used to be so in tune with my spiritual path, but now...I am confused. My boyfriend is being protective of me with some spiritual stuff that I am interested in. He thinks some of these things I am interested have "demonic" tendencies. I know I shouldn't really tell my boyfriend these things too much. Only when he is ready to hear them. Likewise, he has some beliefs that I think are way too fear based and rigid. (He's Russian Orthodox) No offence to anyone that has these views or is of the Orthodox faith, I just don't think being rigid really is a good thing, especially for spirituality.

Also there are practically no pagan or new agey teens at all where I live. I know they're out there, it's just far and few. I really wish I can find them.

So does anyone know of any groups I can go to with people 12-19 years that are pagan or have new agey views? I feel so alone... Cry
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« Reply #1: July 10, 2009, 10:41:10 pm »

So does anyone know of any groups I can go to with people 12-19 years that are pagan or have new agey views? I feel so alone... Cry

Sad to say many groups only allow people 21 years of age or older into their covens or other religious groups due to legal reasons. I am still 20 (even in Canada) and I can't find a coven in my area that would accept me. It is a serious bummer, but internet will be your best friends during the teen years. Sites like this will be here with friendly folks to help you out, that  will not judge.
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« Reply #2: July 10, 2009, 10:44:11 pm »

Sad to say many groups only allow people 21 years of age or older into their covens or other religious groups due to legal reasons. I am still 20 (even in Canada) and I can't find a coven in my area that would accept me. It is a serious bummer, but internet will be your best friends during the teen years. Sites like this will be here with friendly folks to help you out, that  will not judge.

Well, thank you anyway. Funny, there are PLENTY of Christian youth groups, but pagan? Zero. Tongue
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« Reply #3: July 10, 2009, 11:21:21 pm »

Well, thank you anyway. Funny, there are PLENTY of Christian youth groups, but pagan? Zero. Tongue

I just hung out with the Christian kids. They got to play dodgeball, so I was down for that kind of fun.
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« Reply #4: July 11, 2009, 12:32:14 pm »

Spiritually speaking, I am lost. Very lost.

Please don't put down the "You're just a teen" card immediately when you read this, because to me, it's more then just me being a teen.

I used to be so in tune with my spiritual path, but now...I am confused. My boyfriend is being protective of me with some spiritual stuff that I am interested in. He thinks some of these things I am interested have "demonic" tendencies. I know I shouldn't really tell my boyfriend these things too much. Only when he is ready to hear them. Likewise, he has some beliefs that I think are way too fear based and rigid. (He's Russian Orthodox) No offence to anyone that has these views or is of the Orthodox faith, I just don't think being rigid really is a good thing, especially for spirituality.

Also there are practically no pagan or new agey teens at all where I live. I know they're out there, it's just far and few. I really wish I can find them.

So does anyone know of any groups I can go to with people 12-19 years that are pagan or have new agey views? I feel so alone... Cry

I would really take a long look at your relationship with your boyfriend.

There may be plenty of other reasons to stay with him, but let's face it - if he thinks you're doing demonic things and it's your religion, it might be worth taking another look at the relationship.
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« Reply #5: August 12, 2009, 02:24:24 pm »

I would really take a long look at your relationship with your boyfriend.

There may be plenty of other reasons to stay with him, but let's face it - if he thinks you're doing demonic things and it's your religion, it might be worth taking another look at the relationship.

Confusion is expected when your somewhat new to this path.  There are so many different avenues in Paganism.  Take your time and check out the different traditions.  I've been a practicing witch for 30 years and it takes time to see exactly what path you want to take.  If your boyfriend feels that what you practice is demonic that is his opinion and even if you are practicing the darker side that is your choice.  You follow the path that is right for you.

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« Reply #6: August 12, 2009, 02:29:37 pm »

Confusion is expected when your somewhat new to this path.  There are so many different avenues in Paganism.  Take your time and check out the different traditions.  I've been a practicing witch for 30 years and it takes time to see exactly what path you want to take.  If your boyfriend feels that what you practice is demonic that is his opinion and even if you are practicing the darker side that is your choice.  You follow the path that is right for you.

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er - I sincerely doubt you meant to quote ME on that.

Please try to quote the person you're replying to, not just anyone.  Thanks. Smiley
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« Reply #7: August 12, 2009, 02:45:41 pm »

Spiritually speaking, I am lost. Very lost.

Don't worry you aren't alone.  Believe it or not, you will be very surprised to know there are other people who are pagan like you, but are unfraid to be open about it.  Given the ages you listed, 12 years would be most difficult to find a coven or a group to join, unless it was a kids' group within an adult group.  You may have to wait until you are 18 and do something then.  You can always check out witchvox.com for local listings.  I hope you can find what you are looking for, until then the internet will have to suffice.
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« Reply #8: August 12, 2009, 04:06:31 pm »

Please don't put down the "You're just a teen" card immediately when you read this, because to me, it's more then just me being a teen.
That card gets so old, doesn't it? Spirituality is important at any age. It's part of being human.

Also there are practically no pagan or new agey teens at all where I live. I know they're out there, it's just far and few. I really wish I can find them.
If it helps any, just know you're not alone. I'm in the same boat; 17 in the thick of the Bible Belt. Most teens in my area are either hardcore Christian or vaguely atheist. Needless to say, spiritually speaking, I don't fit in with either group.

You might be surprised though by the number of open minded Christians and other religious followers who would love to talk about your spiritual interests. I found out that quite a few of my friends dabbled in alternative paths at some point and still wished to learn more. Though I would use caution with who you tell. In my area, you have to be careful of what you let slip.

I definitely agree with whoever mentioned online groups. Yes, it's not the same as having a flesh and blood friend to hang out with and who knows all the people you're talking about, but people in groups like this one have a wealth of knowledge. When you're just starting out, that's one of the most important things. That and learning to sort out the truth from the Fluff Bunnies.

As for your boyfriend, I would start by asking questions. Be honest yet polite. Invite him to ask questions about your interests. If you don't know the answer to some of his, just be upfront and say you don't know. It's likely that you both have a slightly warped view of each others perspectives and the only way to help that at all it to ask.

I wish you luck!
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« Reply #9: August 12, 2009, 11:52:53 pm »

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Thanks guys. Smiley Thank you for all of your advice.

I used to be a Christian from November of last year until August of this year. Even then my views were different then the Evangelical Christian kids I was surrounded by. Roll Eyes

My bf and I are doing better. We are taking a break from each other. And I still love him, but I just don't want to talk to him about my views while he's still young. Tongue

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It's likely that you both have a slightly warped view of each others perspectives and the only way to help that at all it to ask.


I don't understand why you would think my view is "warped". Can you explain this to me?


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« Reply #10: August 15, 2009, 10:44:21 pm »

I don't understand why you would think my view is "warped". Can you explain this to me?

We all view each everything in certain ways and the way we view things is hardly ever wholly accurate. It's like a funhouse mirror; the image you see isn't the same as the thing or person being reflected. It's not just you, it's everyone has opinions or information (and lack there of) that colors how they perceive things. It's just a fact of life.

But by asking questions, you can get an image that is closer to the thing being reflected than before.

When I say warped, I didn't mean that it was twisted or any other connotations of the word. Sorry if I offended you in any way.
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« Reply #11: August 16, 2009, 10:31:18 am »

We all view each everything in certain ways and the way we view things is hardly ever wholly accurate. It's like a funhouse mirror; the image you see isn't the same as the thing or person being reflected. It's not just you, it's everyone has opinions or information (and lack there of) that colors how they perceive things. It's just a fact of life.

But by asking questions, you can get an image that is closer to the thing being reflected than before.

When I say warped, I didn't mean that it was twisted or any other connotations of the word. Sorry if I offended you in any way.

Well, I did take it literally, because that's what warped means, if you look at the definition of the word.
It's alright though, I now understand what you were trying to say. Thanks for explaining it and thanks for the advice. ^_^
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« Reply #12: August 18, 2009, 11:54:30 am »

I would really take a long look at your relationship with your boyfriend.

There may be plenty of other reasons to stay with him, but let's face it - if he thinks you're doing demonic things and it's your religion, it might be worth taking another look at the relationship.

Now replying to this past post, there were definitely reasons to stick with him. But I had to realize for myself that it just wasn't working.

I'm definitely a lot clearer on my spiritual path. Smiley Our relationship though, is dead.
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« Reply #13: May 17, 2011, 02:04:12 pm »

I agree with the person who said that you might want to evaluate your relationship. Your boyfirend attacking your spiritual path/beliefs is not good for you. I would try to explain to him why these ways are not demonic, and if he becomes more understanding, great. If not, you may want to re-think things.

As far as groups go, I know that teens go to a group in my area. It's not technically a coven, so it's not prohibited. But this group does rituals on the sabbats and meets up and stuff, and the teens can participate if they want to. That might be something you can look into for your area. Check out witchvox.com for listings in your area, they have info for both groups and covens, and obviously in your situation you would be looking for the groups.

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